It has taken me more than three years to write this book about my experiences in online dating. For a long time, I felt very much alone in these experiences. Then, as I moved through the process of telling people about the book, I realized that I am very much not alone and there are millions of people out there going through similar douchebags.
However, there is still the ultimate panic of publication. This is such a personal story, saturated in trauma, drama, and emotionally-fueled mistakes. I keep thinking, what the hell am I doing? Nobody wants to hear about this shit! As I move through the editing process, my panic levels increase with every chapter. Like, Oh, dear Gods, this is awful! Editing makes me want nothing more than to set this bad child aside and let it fester into an infected boil in the back of my mind and hidden on a thumb drive.
To top it all off, a couple of weeks ago (06/16/15), I was watching The Daily Show with Jon Stewart when he interviewed the comedian, Aziz Ansari, about his book, Modern Romance.
Panic. Pure, unbridled, raw panic. More crazy thoughts came dancing through my mind’s eye: Oh my God, a successful comedian writing about essentially the same subject? I must stalk him! I must stalk this book! I must be crazy to write, edit, and publish this fucking monster all by myself. I can’t do this. I’m such a loser.
This went on through the entire show, but as I watched and listened to his explanation, I was captivated. So I bought the book, and I must say… it’s pretty fantastic. It’s different from what I’m doing in that Ansari takes a wide-range view on romance and interaction, whereas mine is based on personal experience.
As with all good books, Modern Romance hit all the good spots: laughter, learning, and a healthy loathing of humanity. Ansari teams up with sociologists and psychologists to discover and explore the changes in our society when it comes to love and dating. With wit and intelligence, he brings us a great deal of scientific findings in matters of the heart, while providing us with some spectacular comedic impressions.
Overall, Aziz Ansari has given me a fucking headache… but in a good way. He made me panic, then he made me laugh, then he made me feel more confident and comfortable with what I am doing with Plenty of Disharmony. I am happy to note that the book is still scheduled to be self-published on 08.02.15… that is, if I can manage to keep the anxiety levels intact.
However, there is still the ultimate panic of publication. This is such a personal story, saturated in trauma, drama, and emotionally-fueled mistakes. I keep thinking, what the hell am I doing? Nobody wants to hear about this shit! As I move through the editing process, my panic levels increase with every chapter. Like, Oh, dear Gods, this is awful! Editing makes me want nothing more than to set this bad child aside and let it fester into an infected boil in the back of my mind and hidden on a thumb drive.
To top it all off, a couple of weeks ago (06/16/15), I was watching The Daily Show with Jon Stewart when he interviewed the comedian, Aziz Ansari, about his book, Modern Romance.
Panic. Pure, unbridled, raw panic. More crazy thoughts came dancing through my mind’s eye: Oh my God, a successful comedian writing about essentially the same subject? I must stalk him! I must stalk this book! I must be crazy to write, edit, and publish this fucking monster all by myself. I can’t do this. I’m such a loser.
This went on through the entire show, but as I watched and listened to his explanation, I was captivated. So I bought the book, and I must say… it’s pretty fantastic. It’s different from what I’m doing in that Ansari takes a wide-range view on romance and interaction, whereas mine is based on personal experience.
As with all good books, Modern Romance hit all the good spots: laughter, learning, and a healthy loathing of humanity. Ansari teams up with sociologists and psychologists to discover and explore the changes in our society when it comes to love and dating. With wit and intelligence, he brings us a great deal of scientific findings in matters of the heart, while providing us with some spectacular comedic impressions.
Overall, Aziz Ansari has given me a fucking headache… but in a good way. He made me panic, then he made me laugh, then he made me feel more confident and comfortable with what I am doing with Plenty of Disharmony. I am happy to note that the book is still scheduled to be self-published on 08.02.15… that is, if I can manage to keep the anxiety levels intact.